Are we okay?

Why do we often avoid this talk on depression and mental health? It is something affecting a huge population of the youths in our country and even probably in other countries. Some saying they are waiting for the right time to address it, imagine there will be no right time to talk about it. Let us create a conversation about this issue as early as now. We are already losing many lives because of depression cases, maybe because of something the individual could have opened up and talked it out.

I can recall the number of times I have cried myself to fall asleep, the times I have bottle up my emotions and feelings. I even at some point felt suicidal and attempted it had an overdose but luckily enough my mission on earth is not accomplished and surprise I am still alive. Nobody could tell something was off because I seemed so okay to people.  Many are the few times I have tried telling my friends I am not fine and I feel like tired of living but they all take it as a joke. To them I do not look like someone who could have a mental breakdown; and funny enough they enough make jokes about my statement on not been okay. I will not lie and say that I am okay completely but I have found some peace and decided to be easy on myself because forgiving yourself is key. I will narrate my story on battles and fights I have had with my inner soul but not today. This here is an example of how we assume that mental health and depression is not an issue among our circles.

Working with facts almost every one of us knows a person who committed suicide and until now, no one knows what exactly made them do so; or we know someone who knows someone who did it. Have we become so mean and inhumane to a point that our own friends do not feel any comfortable opening up to us and choose to bottle up their feelings and emotions? Because they fear been judged. Can we just create a healthy space for these conversations because at the rate we are losing young people we will have a huge gap left to be filled by who knows who?

In the old days, our parents did have a lot going on but not with kind of pressure, we have at this time and era. For our parents they were sure that they had it figured out despite everything, they were strong enough to handle anything that came their way probably. For the millennials and generation Z we feel like we are sure that if we do not have our life figured out at an early age we shall be failures and that is what we definitely do not want. Nevertheless, we tend to forget that we have to be okay to figure it out and we need to take a step at a time. Let us not be too hard on ourselves.

Can we stop assuming that when people want to open up on issues they have been battling that, that is weakness? It should be seen as a sign of strength because they were courageous enough to talk about it. Not been mentally okay is not something we can see in a blink of an eye, it does take time to identify someone is not okay maybe from their change in behavior. There is also this population, which does not change their behavior and will act as if they are okay and later go cry it out which is not okay at all.

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PS; My loves, it is okay not to be okay.